When you are feeling knotted by fear’s tensions

September 15, 2019 3:09 PM

Generosity that
comes from a place of love actually enriches us, not just the people to whom we
are generous.

It’s a potent vaccine that inoculates us against unworthiness and
disconnection. Even when our gifts are not reciprocated the way we hope them to
be, or at all. Nobody can hinder us from the joy and meaning we experience
during the process.

Spezzano’s psychology research on the unconscious
patterns of heartbreak hypothesized that we cannot be rejected unless we are
trying to take something. If we only want to give, we can’t be pushed away. If
we only want to give, people’s response doesn’t matter, or at least, it doesn’t
disappoint us.

That’s the power of generosity. When it’s clean, when it’s
expressed without condition or strings or expectations, there are no losers in
the exchange. The process is what rewards us, not the result it has on others.

And the good news is, our gifts do not wilt when they are seemingly unnoticed.
The generous among us are not fools who are easily taken advantage of.

We are
the recipients. We are the benefactors. We are the ones who feel fully alive
and connected when we extend our hand to the world. Other people may or may not
enjoy or even notice what we have to give, and that’s okay, because our hearts
are the ones that are full.

Matthews sings a beautiful lyric about this:

If
you give, you begin to live. If you give, you get the world. But you might die
trying.

Next time your most generous intentions are feeling knotted by fear’s
tensions, try giving yourself away anyway.

It’s an infinite game with one team
and no losers.

LET ME ASK YA THIS…

How do you feel when you know that you have given yourself utterly to the world?

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Scott Ginsberg

That Guy with the Nametag

Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

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