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Individualists are an interesting breed.  We are the hyper creative, highly sensitive, meaning making machines who solely choose to do things as an expression of our identity. That’s how we roll. The more the world nags us to do something for its reasons, the more it ignites our spirit of resistance. Because we don’t play by anybody’s rules, not even our own.  Now, this is not a judgement one…

We capable of changing everything if we choose.  But we should also never underestimate how difficult the process of change is.  Each of us has a deep aversion to abandoning something that we believe is working for us. Even if we claim that we really do want to change, odds are, the majority of us would rather justify staying the we are.  Because unlike computer software, where all we…

Romance is not complicated or difficult or even expensive.  It simply requires intention and attention, which most people are too busy, too lazy or too afraid to give.  Even if we are not fundamentally lovey dovey touchy feely people, just about anything we do that goes beyond the bare minimum counts as being romantic.  Whether we’re with a date, a partner, a customer, an employee or a stranger, anytime…

The bad news is, each day bombards us with more threats to our sense of meaningfulness, more reasons to lose all faith in humanity, more stories that grip our hearts with painful feelings of shame and hopelessness, and more reminders of the universe’s sheer indifference to our plight.  But the good news is, each day is also an opportunity to prove to ourselves that meaning is made, not found. …

When we envy, we are never free from stress.  Each time we covet another person’s career, each time we assign ourselves the role of deciding who deserves what, each time spitefully ask how anyone could get so far on so little, we squeeze a little more cortisol into our bloodstream and squelch a little more joy out of our hearts.  It’s not healthy and it’s not helpful.  Stoic philosophers…

Some of us choose the wrong heroes.  We become tickled by great names.  And so, we put these famous, celebrated, successful people up on a pedestal, but then the very moment they commit the crime of being human, when they suddenly swing from sugar to shit, we become all angry and betrayed and disappointed.  Because we built up this imaginary relationship inside our minds about who we wanted them…

There are as many paths in the world as there are people to take them.  Which means not everybody you encounter will understand and relate to your unique approach to life.  And that’s fine. One man’s weirdness is another man’s refuge.  What matters is making peace with that weirdness in ourselves. Taking pride in our own habits and needs, and not abandoning them on a moment’s notice just because…

When nothing seems to be going well for us, the easiest thing to do is blame it on our lack of external support.  Surely it must be the people and the environment and the surroundings in which we operate that are the causes of our discontent. But once we accrue enough savings to abandon this soul deadening job and move to the country and get married and open a farm…

We all grow wedded to our accustomed ways.  We hold onto the deep grooves of holy habit, carved into our lives over and over by repetition. And we become so familiar to our choices and routines and lifestyle, that they don’t even seem weird anymore.  Silverman observed it best in her comedy special when she joked, nothing seems crazy when you’re used to it.  However, somewhere down the line,…

There is an interesting term that gardeners use for how long it takes a particular plant to go from germination to flowering.  It’s called days to bloom.  Most seed packets will include the expected number on the package itself, so we can plan appropriately.  But nature is a fickle and fleeting mistress. Maturity value, like any prediction, is never perfectly defined. Days to bloom depends on several factors, many…