It’s easy to get discouraged when we’re getting rejection after rejection after rejection.
In fact, many of us are prone to interpreting those rejections as negative judgments about our character, abilities and value. Falling down the rabbit hole of useless rumination. Gathering evidence of our own inadequacy and spiraling into another paralyzing state of shame and depression.
This is a perfect example of the ego taking us hostage. Stealing our peace like a thief in the night.
Because what our selfish minds forget is, everything is not always about us. Most people are thinking about their own lives, not ours.
Do some basic math. There are eight billion other humans inhabiting this decaying rock, and each one of them are mysterious and complicated creatures who think it’s all about them too.
And so, just imagine how many different reasons there could be for why people say no to us, all of which are beyond our control.
Budgets, timing, changing priorities, company restructuring, personal bias, culture mismatch, computer error, economic conditions, poor taste, bad days, or my personal favorite, because the hiring manager had no real intention of bringing someone on in the first place, but still needed to prove to the board that the company was actively looking.
Gilbert framed it most exquisitely in her bestselling book about big magic:
Rejection letters can’t scare me off. There are people who haven’t even been born yet who are going to reject me someday, that’s how long I plan to stick around.
Proving, that the most powerful source of resilience is the combination of having compassion for ourselves, while obsessing less over ourselves.
In our loves, in our lives, in our labors and in our longings, sometimes, it just doesn’t work out.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
Are you allowing your discouragement to globalize?
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