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All we have is this moment and our attitude toward it. It’s too late to add anything to make it better. Despite our stubborn demands that life comply with our preconceived version of how it should be, whatever is happening right now, this is it. This is as good as it gets. One of the mantras that helps me practice this principle is the simple and gentle phrase, here…

Wearing a nametag is a small, simple and subtle thing. It’s easy to miss if you’re not paying attention. Which most people aren’t. Baristas almost never notice it, since most of them still ask for my name to write on the side of the cup. That always makes me chuckle. Not to be a jerk or anything, but my name is literally in front of your face. But that’s…

All human conflict has its root around the same question: What can’t you be more like me? But the irony is, that’s the last thing you would ever want. Because if everyone was like you, that would be a nightmare. Can you imagine if all the employees at your company started thinking and acting the same way as you did? You would quit your job by lunch. Or what…

In an increasingly fragmented world, we all try to build reliable identities for ourselves. It reinforces our sense of a stable self. It makes us feel special and in control. After all, who wouldn’t want their individuality celebrated rather than crushed? No wonder wearing a nametag every day is so much fun. But the interesting thing is, there are certain times when you’d rather not have any label. Because…

My yoga teacher used to remind us that the practice doesn’t get easier, we just get stronger. Her mantra has broad applications both on and off the mat. Because whether we’re breathing through the discomfort of camel pose, or breathing through the stress of daily life, one thing is for certain. It’s not like we get to some place where the suffering ends. We just get better at handling…

Let’s assume that the attachment to desire is the most dangerous generator of dissatisfaction and frustration. Then the quickest path to better mental health is the moderation our longings. The tricky part is putting ourselves out of the reach of the seductive powers that be which aim to hypnotize us. Because they are now attacking us from every angle. Even before we realize we have been attacked. Carlin famously…

It’s time we climbed up a few rungs on our empathetic ladder and learned how to give people the benefit of the doubt. How to concede that, maybe, somebody might be justified in their action. Napoleon famously said that we should never to ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence. But why stop there? People are motivated for a thousand reasons that aren’t malicious. Everything from…

We’re all doing whatever we can to make sure that we’re not leaving any love on the table. Linklater poses an apt question in his most memorable film: Isn’t everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more? The short answer is, yes. But in this endless romantic pursuit, we leave ourselves open. Love, this delicious madness, this raging fire, this heavenly frenzy, it is…

Do you over analyze your life, looking to extract nuance and meaning where there is none? You’re not alone. Many of us are constantly on the lookout for these aha moments, as if they’re going to solve all of our problems. That’s the tendency of thinkers who love to ruminate, dream and reflect. We are epiphany junkies. We demand that everything be a grand revelation. We want reassurance that…

When we sing together, regardless of the song or the venue, it means that despite our differences, our bodies are unifying. We are sharing space and breath and time, doing the exact same thing together. That’s why things like chanting, karaoke, church choirs, alma mater fight songs and seventh inning stretches are spiritually powerful experiences. Music creates a firm footing for something bigger to take hold. Our physical world…