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The problem with playing the comparison game is, most people are liars.  They extrapolate. They make themselves and their businesses and their successes seem bigger than they really are.  And so, their version of happiness is purely speculation. We don’t know the whole story.  Poe famously said people should believe half of what they see and none of what we hear.  But then again, he may never have said…

Each one of us has a thief inside of our heads, threatening to steal away our joy.  And it’s our responsibility to turn our backs on it, starve it of oxygen and let it die on its own.  Otherwise it won’t stop until it sucks us in and drags us down into the darkness. ‘ The problem is, this is an unnatural process for which we have limited tools…

Clooney was right.  It’s a fool who looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.  Man has the infinite capacity to prioritize feelings above facts.  And so, attempting to blow intellectual holes in somebody’s philosophy is counterproductive. Because their attachment is emotional. They believe what they believe because of a story, not a statistic.  Meanwhile, we’re arguing with them as if facts matter. They don’t. Not to a…

One of our goals in life is to make ourselves proud.  To experience the euphoric satisfaction from having lived up to our expectations for ourselves.  And the good news is, that feeling isn’t limited solely to the external accomplishments we’ve been told are worth celebrating.  There are also internal victories that induce just as much satisfaction.  Along my own emotional and existential journey, for example, I find it exhilarating to watch…

Here’s a pen, and here’s a pad of paper.  Separately, they have limited value.  But once you learn to put that pen to the paper, and fill it with something original, that’s significantly more valuable than the individual parts.  Because it’s idea creation. And the idea is the great umbrella of all employment.  Hell, the idea doesn’t even have to be good. It just has to exist.  That’s your leverage and…

Epictetus once said that human beings have two ears and one mouth so they can listen twice as much as they speak. It’s a corny sentiment, but it’s also an effective strategy.  And this is coming from a professional performer and extrovert who loves talking to people, cherishes an engaging conversation and feels completely comfortable interacting with almost anybody.  But still, I never enjoyed talking just for the sake…

Goldthwaite famously said that we should keep quitting until we end up some place where we don’t want to leave.  It’s a brilliant, albeit bruising approach to the dreaming process.  But it also implies a key question. How do you decide when it’s time to let go, and when it’s time to dig deeper to keep your dream alive?  Nobody knows. Because nobody talks about it. This country doesn’t…

There’s no need to panic at the thought of our own weaknesses.  They’re worth making friends with.  In fact, once we know what they are, and once we’re willing to face them head on, these weaknesses can actually become strengths.  During the second world war, a small population of aerial observers were specifically recruited because they were colorblind. Turns out, their condition made them unable to distinguish military equipment…

Humans first developed the ability to feel anxious because it was evolutionarily advantageous.  Butterflies in the stomach helped protect the tribe from incoming predators.  But that was a million years ago. The modern day problem with anxiety is, it makes our minds contract. It seduces us into focusing on the immediate threat without considering the broader context of our lives.  We allow one bad mood, one fruitless moment or…

If you’re still bloodying your knuckles on doors that you know are not going to open, it’s time to hang up your wrists and stop knocking.  There is a such thing as misguided persistence. And it can work against you. It’s overwhelming to the person being pursued, and it’s frustrating and counterproductive for the person doing the pursuing.  Eventually, you have to just stand in graceful surrender, walk away in kindhearted acceptance and…