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When something triggers our anxiety, the instinctive reaction is to freak out and ruminate about the stress and dwell in our existential pain and mope around feeling sorry for ourselves.  But that only make things worse. It compounds the pain with suffering.  Buddha famously called this the second arrow.  In life, we cannot always control the first arrow, he said. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the…

Here’s my favorite horror movie trope.  There are aliens or zombies or killer clowns shambling around town, terrorizing the locals. And there’s that one little kid who seems to be the only person who sees it.  But nobody believes him. He’s obviously crazy. Everything’s fine.  At which point, the monster usually jumps out of nowhere and devours everyone, leaving nothing behind but a pool of blood and that child…

Meditation is more than simply noticing you breathing.  It’s also about interacting with the space between the breaths. When your mind starts to wander, for example, and you suddenly realize that you’re drifting off to fantasyland and making your to do list inside your head, that’s the moment of truth: The opportunity to return to the breath without judgment.  If you can accomplish that, you’re growing. Every meditative effort…

Where did you find this guy?  This question should be music to your ears.  Because it’s usually asked by people who have just met you, immediately after you created a holy shit moment.  It’s another way of saying, wow, this person is a good catch. A spectacular find. A golden discovery. Someone rare. Someone worth keeping and building things around. Someone who, in their fundamental individuality, their personalized essence, has honed…

A consultant friend of mine loves to say that the day you’re pricing structure is perfect is: When the client is thinking they’re getting a bargain, and you’re thinking that you can’t believe you just got a check for that amount.  For many years, I assumed that was the ideal financial situation. But the more learned about how abundance and gratitude and wealth worked, the more I disagreed.  Because…

Getting adequate sleep has been clinically proven to offer myriad health benefits, including improved memory, sharpened attention, inflammation reduction, heightened creativity, healthier skin and strengthened immune system, to name a few.  But let’s not overlook the bigger and more human significance of that glorious moment when we first lay our heads down at the end of a long day.  My friend who suffers from severe depression says it best. …

Renaissance artists often had patrons.  Organizations or individuals who supported, encouraged and bestowed financial aid upon them, so that their creative work could collide with the outside world.  These people were the original angel investors, sugar daddies and fairy godmothers, and without their crucial role, many of our finest works of art never would have seen the light of day.  Davinci himself even had a number of powerful patrons…

Emerson said that the mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.  That’s the true value of innovation. Not only the ideas we create, but the intellectual growth we undergo along the journey.  And so, even if it’s not in the budget, even if it’ll never pass compliance, even if the brief doesn’t call for it, and even if the client continually tries to…

Fox’s enthralling book on the reinvention of work shares a vision where our personal and professional lives are celebrated in harmony.  A world where the self is not sacrificed for a job, but is sanctified by authentic work. One of the points he makes is about doing things for their own reward. Letting the work take responsibility for itself.  He writes:  It is when we learn to work without a why…

Barger was the original hell’s angel.  He not only founded the legendary motorcycle club in fifties, but he also authored several books about a life on the road, riding high and living free. During one particular interview, he was famously asked how he recruited for his biker gang.  Sonny replied: We don’t recruit, we recognize. When we see somebody that’s us, they become us. That’s the best way to describe…