Lebowski says that at some point, we all have to decide whether we will love humanity or hate it. Whether we will husband this world with care or manhandle it with violence.
Both options are readily available and intensely attractive, but there is one main difference between the two.
Because it’s so tiring hating the world. Forget about the moral and ethical implications of hate, when we become so determined not to enjoy life, solely out of spite, it takes a toll on our bodies. It wears us down. It’s like trying to hold back the tide.
The sad part is, whatever time we spend hating anything, that’s time we’ve wasted on someone who doesn’t even deserve it. It’s like we’re punishing and destroying ourselves for the actions of others.
Don’t we have better things to do with our time? Are there not more useful outlets for our energy? Aren’t we here to increase the net flourishing of vitality in the world?
Koppelman, the award winning writer and film director, says that for years he used business rejection as a way to stoke a kind of anger and determination, but he doesn’t do that anymore. He found that anger worked really well when he was young.
But as you get older, he warns, if you keep using it, it doesn’t burn clean.
Are the fumes of your flame polluting your life and the lives of those you love?
And remember, even if we do hate world with the heat of a thousand suns, it’s not judgment on having those feelings. It’s easy to get attached to our hate because it’s fashionable.
But dragging our hate behind us like a hot turd on a stick isn’t helping anybody. It’s just leaving smelly skid marks.
It reminds me of that old saying, we can’t love anybody until we love ourselves first.
Because the rule has to go both ways. We can’t hate anybody until we hate ourselves first.
I actually wrote a song about that called Yourself First.
Remember, if we really loved ourselves, then we wouldn’t pollute our minds.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
Are you withholding your love to the public as a way to get back at the world you hate so much?