He frightened me because he was so free

When you know exactly who you are, that can be a trigger for people. 

Especially those who are confused about who they are. Those who have failed to reach a cruising altitude for their identity. 

The moment they see you actualizing your creative potential and executing on your insides, the resentment starts to flow. You frighten them because you are so free. And no matter what you try to contribute to them, even it comes from a loving place, they still experience it as an attack. A personal affront to their identity. 

It’s like your very existence annoys and confuses them and raises suspicion. 

Pressfield’s manifesto about breaking through our inner creative battles puts it perfectly. 

If you find yourself criticizing other people, you’re probably doing it out of resistance. When we see others beginning to live their authentic selves, it drives us crazy if we have not lived out our own. Individuals who are realized in their own lives almost never criticize others. If they speak at all, it is to offer encouragement. 

Watch yourself. 

But don’t edit yourself. 

And don’t back down from who you are. Choose to be honored to play the role of a trigger. Because criticism is a form of other people’s insecurity. 

And so, by not reacting to their discomfort, it can actually be healing for them. It can hold them to their greatness. It can inspire them to move closer to who they are. 

They probably won’t realize it. And they certainly won’t thank you for doing it. 

But remember, it’s not your job to make people understand you. It’s your job to understand yourself. 


Are people disagreeing with you just to defend their story about themselves? * * * *

Scott Ginsberg

That Guy with the Nametag

Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.  



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