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My mentor once told me that reputation always catches up with us, either to pat us on the back or kick us in the ass.  This is a helpful and hopeful mantra to invoke as we watch various sociopaths, assholes and idiots taking advantage of others, treating people cruelly and thinking they will somehow get away with it.  They won’t. Not like they used to.  That’s the advantage of…

Few words have more emotional and intellectual and range than why.  On the simpler end of the spectrum, children ask the question why a dozen times every day.  Their curiosity about the world around them helps build concepts, skills and vocabulary. Asking why is their vehicle on the quest to understand the world they live in. Even if it drives their poor sleep deprived parents crazy.  On the more…

In a group setting, certain personality types can be annoying, exhausting and disruptive to the collective energy of the room.  Consider how many times you were stuck in a meeting with a person who did one of the following.  Speaks way longer than they should, lacks sensitivity to nonverbal cues, provides unnecessary or redundant elaboration, makes excessive contributions that draw attention away from the task, believes that other group…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  Seigel wrote that response flexibility is the habit that enables us put a temporal and mental space between stimulus and response, and between impulse and action.  His psychology research showed that…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  Here’s a common fear when life suddenly changes and throws us off our routine.  What if I have become so conditioned that I won’t be able to function anywhere else?  It…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  If desiring to change was enough, then we would have already changed by now.  Turns out, however, wanting to feel better is not the same as willingness to change.  Because everyone…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  Helplessness is useful.  It motivates our choice to contribute in a meaningful way we otherwise wouldn’t have considered.  Companies are laying off employees by the millions right now. It feels like…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  Sometimes the architecture of the world will start changing before our very eyes.  Initially, when something like this goes down, the change is confusing and scary and lonely and disorientating. It…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  In any kind of search, whether it’s professional, personal, spiritual or otherwise, one thing is for sure.  It will take longer than we’d like it to.  Without that baseline assumption, without…

Change is hard for all of us, myself included. In this new series, I’ll be sharing daily mediations on transition, change, reinvention. Look out all you rock and rollers, turn and face the strange.     # # #  If you’ve spent significant amounts of sacred time communing with your inner life and connecting with the outer universe, dealing with change will come easier to you.  It will feel more…