Our loss of innocence can come from any source of heartbreak.
And when it happens, when we are a young person standing at the threshold of a new maturity, there is a shedding of an outdated pair of eyes and ears. Our comprehension of the world is revolutionized.
The change or loss or disappointment pulls the rug out from under us, and all of the sudden, we are not the same people we were one year or even one month ago.
It’s chilling. Our souls often find themselves moping and mourning about. After all, changing of any kind requires letting go of a portion of our identity. This process of grieving can make us want to throw in the towel.
But the light in our eyes does not have to fade and die.
Ashley, a veteran startup executive and former coworker of mine, had a practical but profound way of approaching this moment:
As an adult, your dreams just have a shorter shelf life. There isn’t an opportunity to wait five years to be the next you. It’s today. Dreams cost more because they last less long. And they mature into market value sooner. And so, adults have not abandoned their dreams, they just have to work harder to have a dream, because tomorrow is today and dreams don’t come cheap. They live or die on what you did this morning.
Are you in the midst of losing your innocence? If so, you’re not alone. You are not the first disillusioned one the world has encountered.
However, consider treating disillusionment not as a problem, but as an awakening force.
It doesn’t have to be the best thing that ever happened to you, it’s just part of the journey.
Whyte, perhaps our greatest living poet, writes about this in his book about the three marriage:
Heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.
Proving, that the refusal to be disillusioned can only lead to more suffering.
To use my favorite album title, think of it as a heartbreakthrough.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
Have you grown up enough to know that you were never innocent?