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After two years at my first job, the time came to submit my letter of resignation to management. The founders read it and asked me to stand up and make a quick announcement to the team about leaving. People stopped what they were doing, looked up from their computers, listened attentively to my few words of gratitude and farewell, nodded their heads, and immediately went back to work. No…

The COVID19 pandemic has disrupted all of our lives. But sometimes disruptions can be times of opportunity. Many people’s livelihoods have been hurt by the pandemic. Some saw this as an opportune time to take their lives in a new direction. Authority Magazine launched a series call “How I Was Able To Pivot To A New Exciting Opportunity Because Of The Pandemic”, I had the pleasure of being featured…

Satisfaction, like most things in this life, is an inside job. Contrary to popular conditioning, and despite what the marketing powers that be would have us believe, deciding to feel content comes from the interior space. It doesn’t depend on having things work out our way, it has nothing to do with how people react to us, and it isn’t related to some external achievement or acquisition that, once…

My favorite maxim around the subject of habits comes from a widely successful television executive. He’s been sober his entire life, and when asked what prompted that decision, here’s what he told the interviewer: You never want to start something other people are trying to quit. This might be the most lucid, logical and elegant life philosophy ever stated. And yet, most people don’t think that way when it…

There is so little in life we can actually fix. Even when we do, everything fix seems to just break something else. It’s like those video game developers are fond of saying. You haven’t fixed anything, you’ve merely changed the problem. And so, whatever it is that we think we need to fix, perhaps what we really need is to fix is how we think about it. Because unlike…

Valve, the award winning software company whose employee handbook went viral, asks this question of its team members. How much do you contribute at a larger scope than your core skill? It’s the counterintuitive question that all of us should be asking ourselves. Because typically, if a task or a project falls outside of our core competency, we’re told to delete, delegate, outsource, postpone, ignore or forget about it….

Nobody knows why it gets worse before it gets better. All healing is a complicated, frustrating journey that take longer than we’d like it to. But if we don’t have realistic expectations about what our healing looks like, then that journey is going to feel even longer. My therapist used to tease me ever time my impatience tried to rush my body into feeling better faster. Hurry and relax,…

My friend who works for a television network jokes that most actors read scripts like this. Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit, my line, bullshit, bullshit, my line. It’s a silly but truthful example of how empathy is not natural, it is learned. Like most emotional skills, it requires imagination, practice and encouragement. Deliberate and conscious development. Which is probably why empathy has been in increasingly short supply over the past few…

When you live in a big city, the first lesson you learn is, pee before you leave. The second lesson you learn is, every micro interaction costs energy. It’s the very harsh but very real economics of urban living. Strangers are not going to stop, look you in the eye and reward you with a crumble of their attention, simply because you’re in in their line of sight. It’s…

Fomo is the feeling of anxiety or insecurity over the possibility of missing out on something, like an event or an opportunity. Not only has this term been added to the official dictionary, but it has also become a staple of our cultural lexicon. To me, this whole idea is disgusting. Six billion people, and every last one of them trying to have it all? Fomo is just another…