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Any time we enter into a new team environment, the quicker we can get up to speed, the better. In those first few weeks, there will be a lot of catching up to do. Not only informationally, but also empathetically. We’re going to need to learn how this team became what it is today, so we can help them become what they need to be tomorrow. The good news…

Contrary to what the comic books depict, your superpower doesn’t have to be something that you can do better than anyone else in the whole world. There’s no rulebook that says you need this exaggerated, telekinetic or world class ability. It can simply be a gift that you possess, that nobody can take away from you, which contributes a disproportionate amount of meaning in yours and other people’s lives….

There’s a powerful movie about top secret government operatives who killed the most wanted terrorist on the planet. When the agency director finishes his interview with the top candidate to lead his strike team, he looks over to his second in command: What do you think of the girl? To which the subordinate replies: I think she’s really smart. Then director responds with a cinematic thousand yard stare. Jeremy,…

Depression is like an over eager party guest. It doesn’t need an invitation. Sometimes it just shows up. Even if we’ve done tons of inner work to keep meaninglessness at bay, it can never be entirely ruled out. Because the pilot light inside the human brain needs only the smallest spark to ignite. If those two metaphors weren’t enough for you, here’s another one from my favorite comedian. Carlin…

It’s difficult to set boundaries after somebody has repeatedly violated them for an extended period of time. Because at that point, you have no ground to stand on. You’ve already been giving the mice so many cookies for so long, that it’s too late to break the habit. Even if you do draw the line, the other person is likely to not take you seriously, or worse yet, become…

Rohr, my favorite modern monk, writes about how the church often does not really encourage an inner life. It substitutes belief systems and belonging systems and moral systems for interior journeys toward god. And religion is not alone, either. Most organizations and institutions in this world don’t have a vested interest in our population taking time for practices like reflection. The powers that be would love nothing more than for our…

Surrender is hard for men. Our testosterone fueled brains interpret surrender as giving up, ceding control, being dominated and demonstrating weakness. Wolff’s philosophy summarized the irony of surrender perfectly back in the sixties, pointing out that surrender stands in opposition to the official western consciousness, in which our relation to the world is that of mastery, control, efficiency and manipulation. This relation is virile, rather than womanly. In short,…

Chambers was among the first to note, the burning bush is a symbol of everything that surrounded the ready soul, it is ablaze with the presence of god. His contention was that the fire didn’t just spontaneously combust one afternoon in the middle of the desert. It had been burning the whole time. Moses simply didn’t have the eyes to see it. But once he became aware of the…

Some people simply need something to be furious at. Their rage is not about emotion, it’s about identity. Saying that they hate things is what makes them happy. It’s the pellet that makes the rat feel like themselves. They’re defined by what they don’t like. This behavior, foul as it may be, is psychologically understandable. Who doesn’t love yanking that pressure release valve to let the all their steam…

How good are you at loving your stress? That was the most powerful question my therapist ever asked me. Because our goal is not to be free from stress, but to learn to live with it differently. To change our relationship to it. To meet stress as a product of our own mind, not as something that just magically materialized from people and events in our environment. Without that…