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How much difficulty is normal? Is it realistic to think that things should be easier for us, or is our current level of resistance par for the course? Tough question. Because struggle is relative and subjective. We all have respective strengths, weaknesses and circumstances. Some difficulties are minor and easily overcome, while others require substantial effort and resilience. One man’s marathon is another man’s warmup. But it doesn’t matter…

Why are we so afraid of repeating ourselves? Maybe it’s our fear of monotony. The fundamental human craving for novelty. It could also be our allergy to stagnation and natural inclination for growth. Or perhaps the terror of being unoriginal? Ain’t nothing scarier than not being special. Then again, there’s also the anxiety of regret. If we repeat certain actions or choices, we could miss out on trying something…

If it takes less than five minutes to do, do it right now. Have you ever heard of this rule? Productivity experts have touted this philosophy for decades. The five minute rule is a potent defense against procrastination. Tackle the task at the moment it’s defined and don’t delay. Take immediate action to short circuit your brain and break through the inertia to feel a greater sense of progress…

Whenever I have been on the job hunt, I’ve historically approached filling out applications and going on interviews with the mindset of having nothing to lose. I find it to be empowering and it helps me approach my search with confidence, curiosity, and most importantly, resilience. Doing so frees me to cast a wider net with my candidacy, which uncovers opportunities that I might not have spotted, had I…

The narratives we construct about ourselves and our circumstances can shape our lives. These stories can aid us in shifting our mindset to think in healthier and more adaptive ways, and ultimately experience better outcomes. And the best part is, it’s not about what’s true or false, it’s about what works for us. If we make a conscious shift in our mental perspective, and that becomes the thing that…

If you want to signal loyalty, affinity, closeness and camaraderie for your family or team, here are my recommendations. Number one, listen loudly. Pay attention during conversations, phone calls, video chats and other communications. What specific language do your colleagues always use? Which acronyms or phrases are repeated most often? Are there any references that regularly sneak their way into people’s emails and chat messages? If you spot a…

Organizational psychologists have found that our informal, nontask related workplace social interactions matter more than we realize. Those little moments represent what are called affective events. They’re the emotions and moods that influence job performance and satisfaction. And it is largely through the accumulation of those very events that lead to healthy outcomes of more enduring workplace relationships. The more affective events we can experience, the more we will…

I am wrong all the time. I actually enjoy being wrong. Nobody learns from being right. People don’t grow from success. Show me one athlete who transformed from winning every game. What about you? What kind of intention do you hold around reflection? If we want to ramp up our experiential learning, it’s helpful to have a framework to guide our efforts. Mine has three parts. Insightful exploration, critical…

History repeats itself over and over. The rhythms of time never stop beating. And yet, humans have notoriously short memories. Our brains are liars. We easily and rapidly reimagine experiences to fit our preconceptions, rather than accurately recording what happened. I read a popular study from a psychology journal showing that our brains generate false memories of events mere seconds after they have occurred. We paraphrase, distort and misremember…

Empowerment is the ability to take personal agency. This is what living life fully is all about. I was reading a paper in an analytic philosophy journal, and the researcher made a distinction between two forms of empowerment. Hypoagency and hyperagency. Hypoagency means that anything bad that happens to us isn’t our fault. It was society, or culture, or some outside influence that made us do it. Hyperagency means…