When love pulls back the velvet curtain

November 27, 2018 11:39 AM

The most unexpected part of being in a committed relationship is, you’re forced to become fully acquainted with the most repulsive sides of yourself.

Sure, everybody can hide for a while, doing their nice little song and dance for the first few months or even the first few years.

But eventually, love pulls back the velvet curtain. And our relationship becomes this constant mirror, reflecting back to us all the things we’re afraid to confront about ourselves.

Most which we didn’t even know existed. All of which are far deeper and darker than forgetting to put the cap back on the toothpaste.

Like how territorial we are about our personal space because we grew up in a household without boundaries. Or how wasteful and distasteful we are in the kitchen because we come from money and had maid and never learned to clean up after ourselves. Or how petulant and childish we get when family members stay for the weekend. Or how job disappointments can make us feel disgusted with ourselves for an entire week.

Maybe that’s why it’s called intimacy. It’s another way of saying, into me I see.

True love has no hiding places.

But isn’t that the point? Isn’t that the beauty of sharing your life with someone? The fact that your relationship becomes this sacred venue, this holy platform, through which both people can heal their respective crazy bullshit?

It’s the bullet we never see shot when we first pull the commitment trigger. And it hurts when it bloodies the skin.

But our lives are stronger because of it.

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