There’s nothing more powerful than saying no to people. For us and for them.
But if you struggle to believe that, perhaps a little reframing is in order to snap you out of your codependent tendencies.
Think of this way.
When we say no, we are not rejecting another person, we are simply refusing a request. When we say not, we are not criticizing another person, we are simply asking for what we need. Expressing our reality clearly.
Therefore, even if saying no sounds like the hardest and most demanding response in the world, we have to trust that it is an act of love. Towards ourselves and others and the world in which we all live.
Saying no is an instrument of integrity and a shield against exploitation. Saying no is what allows us to bring quality energy to the world. Saying no is the fundamental strategy we have for setting real boundaries.
And doing so won’t tilt the world on its axis. Ever. Promise. Quite the opposite, in fact.
My entrepreneur friend has a great saying he uses with highly demanding clients.
I am not telling you how to run your business, I am educating you about how I run my business.
Now that’s power.
Remember, saying no protects both parties.
Don’t let poor boundaries disguise themselves as compassion.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
What’s the most painful boundary you’ve set?* * * *
Scott Ginsberg
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