Words don’t mean anything until we give them the power to say everything

Nothing seems crazy when you're used to it. Whether it's an abusive relationship, a toxic workplace, a compulsive habit, or some other harmful circumstance, you never realize how bad it was until you walk away and heal from it all. It's only when you get to the other side and find the happiness you didn't know you could feel, that you see your past with straight eyes. But that's the beauty of human transformation. It affords us contrast, perspective and...

Multiple studies have shown that young people are having less sex than previous generations. The exact reasons for this trend are debatable, but one thing’s for sure. Sex isn’t the problem, it’s the symptom. What’s more concerning is our culture’s broader withdrawal from physical and emotional intimacy. And it’s hard not to appreciate the allure. Why waste our time and energy on the vulnerable, gradual and reciprocal exchange of authentic being, when we can simply numb it all out with...

Moderation has never really worked for my personality. Despite my best efforts to adopt an everything in moderation maxim, turns out I'm an all or nothing kind of guy. Timing and monitoring and measuring my effort doesn't motivate me, it exhausts and frustrates me. Framing my level of activity and consumption as sensible, whatever the hell that means, only ruins the experience for me. Unlike some people, occasionally indulging doesn't heighten my pleasure and strengthen my resolve, it only makes...

Complaining is satisfying because it relieves tension, earns validation, builds connection and enables catharsis. What's not to like? To quote one of my favorite comedians, the thing about sitting in your own shit is, it’s warm, it’s familiar and it’s yours. But the danger is when people spend more time complaining about their situation than solving it. Trapped in a doom loop of their own making, they forget one of life's basic laws. Possibility only comes into existence through action....

Aristotle was the first philosopher to systematize logical errors into a handy list. He referred to them as the thirteen fallacies, one of which is called the irrelevant conclusion. It's when an argument is given, from which a perfectly valid, sound conclusion could be drawn, but despite having all the information, people come to a conclusion so wrong that it's even further from correct. Movies and television portray these moments all the time. Characters dramatically or comedically miss the point...