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Procrastination isn’t the problem, it’s a symptom of a deeper issue.  One that nobody wants to talk about.  Unhealthy and ineffective emotional regulation.  And so, when we spontaneously decide to start vacuuming and dusting our entire office in the middle of a weekday afternoon, it’s not because a prospective client is coming over for a high powered meeting.  It’s because we’re trying to run away from our feelings and…

There’s nothing more exhausting than keeping up with the reputation that you’re a good person who always makes healthy choices and knows what they’re doing.  Integrity, consistency and competence, these character traits are admirable, but frankly, they’re profoundly difficult to uphold one hundred percent of the time.  That’s what I wonder to myself when I meet people who are not open to being or even looking human.  Who are these heroes…

Divine discontent is a fundamental part of the human biological endowment.  Everyday we are swamped by feelings that threaten to drain away our sense of power and ability to make meaning.  But unless we physically schedule time for joy, it might never find a slot on our schedule. And we’ll become blind to the very things that make our lives feel worth living.  Because we’ll grow overextended and over…

I recently heard an interview with a man who holds the world record as the youngest disc jockey in history.  Stevens built his own working transmitter in the attic of his home by using a souped up wireless broadcasting kit with a hundred foot antenna. And once his remarkable story blipped on the radar of the local radio station, the program director offered him a job as a weekend…

Our reluctance to ask for help often stems from the childhood need for individuation, agency, efficacy and power.  Somewhere inside of us, there’s still that petulant little toddler trying to prove to himself and to the world that he’s big and strong and can sit at the big boy table and play with the grownups and build a giant sand castle all by himself.  As if to pout and…

The principle of caveat venditor, aka, let the seller beware, cautions the businessperson to be responsible for any problem that the buyer might encounter with a service or product.  But let’s not ignore the problems that occur before the sale is made.  Because as a seller, it’s easy to allow our ego needs get in the way of good judgment.  Think back to various projects and jobs and gigs and…

Camus notably wrote that peace was the only battle worth waging.  This profound thought first appeared in an essay about the savagery of the atomic bomb.  But keep in mind, the guy was also an absurdist philosopher.  And so, perhaps there’s a deeper layer to his message about the battles we wage inside of our own heads. A forewarning to people that the fight for the inner landscape is equally…

Toshi’s rock club has the greatest mission statement on the planet.  The plaque on the wall says: Our raison d’être is to produce rapture for all those who come, moments where you’re happy to be alive and wanting to live forever. Sounds crazy. We know. But it’s what we want to do.  Can you imagine what the world would look like if more companies took a stand for joy? …

When sadness descends like a heavy fog, our first instinct is to stop giving ourselves privileges.  To deny ourselves healthy experiences and emotions. To feel virtuous for depriving ourselves. And to contract our lives and become small, because that will keep things predictable and safe.  Our sweet little routine will protect us. Even though joy has left the building.  But’s a completely false solution. To punish ourselves for deviating…

Camouflaged with such mad intentions Fool I’m just trying to fight your attention It’s the only way we’re gonna last forever If we find a way to stand broken together It’s the war of the wills It’s the war of the wills Gratefulness for the oxygen junkies Fool your circus must meet my monkies It’s the only way we’re gonna last forever If we find a way to stand…