Your love has nothing to do with me

You have bought into the story that this is progress. 

Instead of wisely cutting your losses and getting on with your life, you keep nobly persisting, refusing to take no for an answer, chasing down leads for opportunities that are ridiculously out of your reach, believing that your passion and personal stamina will actually make a difference. 

Because just like your mother always said:

You’re special and different and therefore better and more deserving than anybody else. Don’t let anybody tell you any different. 

And so, the voice inside your head says:

You just wait and see. Once those bastards finally come to their senses and realize that they’re going to have trouble living without me, they’ll come crawling back

That’s not determination, that’s delusion. It’s unrequited love. One sided infatuation. Trying to please people until they can’t stand you. 

And the problem is, popular culture has falsely portrayed this kind of persistence as something that pays off when the rejecter comes to their senses. 

But unfortunately, real life doesn’t work that way. 

Here’s what really happens. 

The lovelorn wallflower spends his entire adolescence fantasizing about dating the most popular girl in school. And then, at the senior prom, once he finally musters the courage to corner her at the party and share his meticulously detailed plans about their perfect future together, he realizes that his love has nothing to do with her. 

It’s just a performance. It’s just an elaborate story he built inside his head that has no relationship with reality. 

Real life isn’t an eighties teen drama. Think about the story of progress you’re buying into. 

Learn to become more sophisticated about your relationships, both personally and professionally. 


Are you cutting your losses early and often?

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Scott Ginsberg

That Guy with the Nametag

Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

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