Constructing an identity around how unlike everyone else we are

November 19, 2019 4:29 PM

Individualists are an interesting breed.

We are the hyper creative, highly sensitive, meaning making machines who solely choose to do things as an expression of our identity.

That’s how we roll. The more the world nags us to do something for its reasons, the more it ignites our spirit of resistance. Because we don’t play by anybody’s rules, not even our own.

Now, this is not a judgement one way or another. It’s more about understanding the motivational system of this peculiar personality.

And so, whether you are an individualist yourself, work with one, or married to one, god bless your patient soul, here are several personality paradoxes to keep in mind.

Because we have a motivational need to express our uniqueness and be authentic, we grow resentful when we’re not congratulated on our idealism.

Because we insist on putting our personal signature on everything that we do, we feel hurt and attacked when someone misunderstands our way of doing things.

Because we express our creativity as an essential tool to maintain our wellbeing, we feel soul sick in environments where our visions cannot be freely expressed.

Because we construct our identity around how unlike everyone else we are, we become claustrophobic when we are not remembered for our specialness.

Because we possess a gift that sets us apart from mainstream conventionality, we grow envious for the simpler forms of happiness that others so readily enjoy.

Because we often behave in bizarre ways that guarantee we will remain obscure, we long for the people who will appreciate the secret self that we have privately nurtured and hidden from the world.

Because we have a biological need to bring forth our many talents into the world and express them in a way that is extraordinary and original, our brains break when someone accuses us of being derivative.

Just a few things to keep in mind if you or someone you know is a member of this quirky but complex tribe.

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