To say that people don’t change is to be naïve, cynical and foolish about the human condition.
People only change. That’s all people do.
Each one of us is approaching some invisible frontier on the way to maturity. Each one of us is a continually changing constellation of potentialities. Each one of us is caught in this world that we never made, and to which we must constantly readjust in order to survive.
It doesn’t serve us to throw our hands up in the air, believe that everybody stays the same forever and just get on with our lives.
The real question is, can we be flexible enough to alter our plans in the face of the winds of change? Can we learn to understand ours and each other’s evolving needs as the years go by?
It reminds me of something our marriage counselor once said:
Don’t expect to stay married to the same person.
Meaning, love me, love my changes. Meaning, treat your relationship as an opportunity to practice changing.
Yes, allow yourself to mourn the losses of yours and other people’s identities as time marches on. But as you and others move toward your ideal self, also allow the anticipation of those changes ideas to excite you. Tell yourself that you can’t wait to see what’s around the next corner, and what a thrill it is to be with a person who’s up for it.
You know, it’s funny, we read books, take courses, go to therapy and attend support groups trying to figure out how to change people. When in reality, the only thing we really have to do is wait.
Because change happens eventually.
The real work is growing in our ability to cope with the new version of ourselves and others.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
Do you believe that people, yourself included, are capable of changing everything if they choose? * * * *
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