It drags us down into hell right next to them

Feeling like you’re ahead of the game is a uniquely satisfying feeling. When you realize that you’re in a position of advantage, or you have a head start compared to most people a particular situation, it fills you with relief, pride and confidence. Do you feel grounded with your level of knowledge, skills and preparation for future challenges? Like all the past invisible labor has positioned you for a healthier start. Sure, there will still be risks and obstacles and...

I hired a trumpet player to record horn tracks for the score of my gothic western movie. Our process for collaborating on the album centered around following the funny. First, I sent him the audio file of the song, along with lyrical context and creative direction. Next, he would record a collection of possible trumpet voices for each part of the song. Finally, I would listen to this mixes and choose the track that made me laugh. That was my...

Nothing distresses our species as much as irrationality. Irrational beliefs have been shown to lead to a vast range of dysfunctional emotions and behaviors, and are associated with everything from depression to anxiety to burnout to suicidal thoughts. Ellis, a pioneer in the field of cognitive behavioral therapy, said it best in book. Your unhealthy negative feelings are almost always accompanied by some irrational belief. For example, one category of irrational beliefs is called depreciation. It’s when we believe that...

Here’s why I dislike complaining so much. It’s a pure projection of powerlessness. Total victim mentality. We have externalized personal responsibility by delivering mouthfuls of misery about our own existence. Which, to be fair, earns us catharsis, attention, validation, support and camaraderie. But all of those are all short term gains. The positive outcomes are limited. There is an illusion of control, since we are at least able to protest, although there’s still no solution to our problem. This is...

Easily amused is supposed to be an insult. Cynical people use this label to imply someone is stupid, simpleminded and unsophisticated. It’s code for low brow, undiscerning and prone to infantile joy. The easily amused person is satisfied by the lowest common denominator. Our social norms view them as inherently negative individuals who lack intellectual and emotional depth. After all, we live in a culture that emphases productivity and achievement. Being easily amused can be viewed as a distraction or...