Denial she forms in my throat

The
biggest emotional red flag is when we think to ourselves:

I shouldn’t be feeling this. 

It’s the absence of true acceptance.
Refusing to give ourselves permission to value our real desires. 

Like a child
holding his breath as a physical tool of denial for reality. 

The goal is to
hold ourselves in a more gentle, kind and compassionate way. Which that means
we have to abandon expectations about how we’re supposed to feel. We have to
accept that our feelings aren’t good or bad, right or wrong, positive or
negative, healthy and unhealthy. 

Binaries like that only add stress to our
lives. 

Truth is, only our actions can be wrong, not our thoughts and feelings. 

And so, we shouldn’t be afraid to give weight to our negative feelings about
another person for fear of throwing them under the bus. We should feel the
feelings and let them fade, without guilting or judging or punishing ourselves
for the morose movies playing inside of our heads. 

Because it’s not about
punishing another person, it’s about not punishing myself. 

Freud, on the other
hand, believed that human beings should never be allowed to truly express
themselves because it was too dangerous to the powers that be. The very idea of
examining and analyzing our inner feelings was a threat to society’s absolute
control over us. 

No wonder we’ve morphed into a society of fugitives from our
own feelings. There’s a century’s worth of barriers in all of our minds that
prevents our hidden and unwelcome impulses from the unconscious from emerging. 

A set of fundamental beliefs that are so ingrained in our society that we
hardly know they exist, much less examine them. 

And so, the path to safety and
belonging and compatibility with the world is to say:

I’m sorry, here is this
feeling that is inside of me, this thing that I’m not allowed to have an
appetite for, can you please help me get rid of it? 

Enough. The time has come
for us to own our emotional realities, no matter how it feels or what its
societal implications may be. 

To advocate for the people we truly are, as
opposed to the one we think we’re supposed to be.

LET ME ASK YA THIS…  

When was the last time you told yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling something? 
LET ME SUGGEST THIS… 

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Scott Ginsberg

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