Are you miserable enough to try anything?

August 21, 2018 10:48 AM

You complain how it’s so hard to meet someone special.

That the dating scene in this city is unforgiving and exhausting. And that there are no good prospects out there.

Fair enough. All of those things are probably true.

But they’re also external, out of your control and therefore, very easy to blame for your current situation. The only question that matters is:

How are you keeping the fire of inner commitment alive?

Because that’s what a person who wants something does. They commit. They go all in.

Here’s another way to think about it. Remember when you were stuck working that dead end job you hated? It was awful. You were miserable enough to try anything.

And so, you created a strategy. You started making phone calls and putting out feelers and sending out resumes and networking your ass off until you finally found a job that was more fulfilling.

In short, you committed. You went all in. Four months later, you secured a new position at a great company, peaced the fuck out of your toxic work environment, stepped into your new life and never looked back.

How is that any different than dating?

It’s not. Because commitment is medium agnostic. It’s one of the few strategies that works no matter what the goal is.

And so, whatever it is that you’re lacking, remind yourself that you’ve seen this movie before. Your life has already given you the proof that you know how to commit. It’s time to trust that there is training you already have that you can apply to what you want.

Remember, people only change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the cost to change.

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