Creating psychological fuel around something we don’t even want

June 28, 2019 10:54 AM

Trying to understand, figure out and even fix our mood rarely helps anything.

There are very few situations when the analysis of our temperament relieves us of it. In fact, that typically makes things worse. Because what we focus on, expands.

Paranoia is the perfect example. When we grow suspicious of the powers that be, it’s tempting to begin engaging in worst case scenario thinking. Shacking up with doomsday possibilities. Miring ourselves in negative hope. Shrinking back from life and slide towards despair.

Somehow, this mindset makes us feel comforted, safe and less alone. After all, we can share that paranoia with people and bond over our common misery. What’s not to love?

But the reality is, dwelling on what we lack only keeps us in despair. It doesn’t advance the story forward, as the screenwriters say.

Our goal is to free ourselves from the impediment of mood. To stop creating more unnecessary psychological fuel around something we don’t even want in the first place.

For example, instead of asking why we’re so damn anxious, we might ask ourselves what we are going to do right now to reduce our overall experience of anxiety. Instead of sitting down at the whiteboard to map out the root cause of our shitty situation, we might ask ourselves what three meaningful concrete actions we can take today that will boost our sense of confidence and momentum.

It’s the same energy, it’s just more productively channeled.

Remember, be aware of your mood, but don’t spend much time analyzing it.

Shift your focus in the direction of the affirmative and watch what happens.

LET ME ASK YA THIS…

When will you be able to celebrate that you no longer drown in your moods?

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Scott Ginsberg

That Guy with the Nametag

Author. Speaker. Strategist. Inventor. Filmmaker. Publisher. Songwriter.

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