If the greatest verb might well be earn, then the worst verb might well be deserve.
Because when we constantly keep count of what we feel we’re entitled to, it becomes our nature to always be demanding things as we wish them to be.
And then, when we find out that they’re not, heartbreak ensues. Gratitude evaporates. And we blame the world for not giving us what we want.
As with most things, it’s a control issue. We trap ourselves into thinking we deserve better, and that only multiplies our disappointment.
As the taoist proverb goes:
Any over determined action produces its exact opposite.
That’s the danger of deserving. To deserve means we have taken the good we have for granted. To deserve means that we feel entitled to the things we want. To deserve means that we are placing a finite value, a set line in the sand, as to what will make us happy.
The only road out of this mindset is to throw the door open to an entirely new way of being. Meaning, we must focus on what we want from ourselves, not what we want for ourselves.
Huge difference. One is within the scope of our control, the other isn’t. One helps us gain a sense of efficacy, the other doesn’t.
Ultimately, there are those who earn, and there are those who deserve.
We make the choice each day which one we will be.
LET ME ASK YA THIS…
Are you conscious about what you have established as expectations for yourself?
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