Nobody makes me bleed my own blood

Saying no can be hard, but hearing no can be even harder.

That’s the two way street of healthy relationships. To quote the old playground

If you can’t take it, don’t dish it out. 

And so, for every time we
courageously stand up for ourselves and declare our values, we must also be
equally respectful when people announce theirs. Because growing defensive and
becoming angry and pretending the word no
doesn’t exist and instinctively pulling down a curtain of denial and bulldozing
our way through the brick wall of other people’s boundaries, that’s not
persistence, that’s petulance. 

It may  be
highly effective when selling used cars, but in our personal relationships,
it’s just throwing stones from a glass house. 

When I first started my career as
a writer, my editor gave me a useful mantra for responding to critical readers.
He told me to tell them:

I respect your
opinion of my work.

After all, we can’t get mad at people for disliking
something we made. It’s their perfect right. We would expect the same respect
to be extending towards us. And we have to learn to idle our motor even when we
feel like grinding our gears. To practice staying calm when people set
boundaries with us. 

Not to receive their act of integrity as a personal affront
to our existence, but to lovingly say to people, thank you for telling me about
your boundary, and I’ll do my best to respect it.


Are you more skilled at saying no to people than you are at hearing no from them?


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