No matter how enlightened and accepting we think we are, inside each one of us is a judgmental axe ready to fall.
And it’s very difficult to resist.
Our ego loves judgment because it gives us a sense of being right and superior. The problem is, it doesn’t move us forward. It’s just a way of spinning our selfish wheels. Every time we spend our precious mental energy speculating about someone else’s life and how it compares with ours, it only deepens feelings of anger and resentment.
There’s a powerful passage from a recovery book on this very topic:
What a sad waste it is to occupy ourselves with other people’s affairs, gossiping and inventorying and comparing and judging. We must focus on keeping our house in order, not theirs.
It’s like watching the office clock to monitor what time people arrive each morning.
Sarah is always thirty minutes late, and she usually leaves thirty minutes early. Totally unprofessional. Who does she think she is? This is bullshit. Somebody should send out a company wide email and passive aggressively remind all employees that we start work here at nine.
It’s exhausting, holding onto these petty little fantasy battles inside our heads. Taking other people’s inventories is a pointless endeavor.
Besides, we can’t learn anything if we’re in the judgment business.
And so, next time that voice shows up, simply say hello and let the judgment continue on its way. Allow others to live their own lives, and you’ll have much more time and energy to tend to your own affairs.
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What if the only inventory you needed to take was your own?
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