It’s not the thing, it’s that for which the thing is a solution

There is nothing in this world that we can’t turn into heroin. 

In fact, there are as many addictions as there are people to suffer from them. 

But there is one characteristic all of these conditions have in common. 

It’s not a sustainable piece of machinery for regulating our emotions. That’s how our brains work. Addiction is a habitual substitute satisfaction for an essential unmet need. It’s not about the thing, it’s about that for which the thing is a solution. 

Masters said it eloquently in his book on transformation through intimacy:

Everything exists through relationship, and only through relationship. Everything. Everything, everyone, everywhere, every last bit of it. None of it exists unto itself, truly separate from all the rest of it. None of it! We are never not in relationship. How could we be? No one and no thing possesses truly independent existence and therefore cannot stand apart from everything else. Every life arises only in the context of relationship. 

And so, we can’t allow the false glamour of addiction to keep us down. We can’t keep chopping off all our connections with others. 

It’s time to break the cycle of isolation in which addiction thrives. To train ourselves to want meaningful connection more than we want that other thing. 

Because whatever our addiction is, it’s not a viable substitute for people. 


How might you finding answers that satisfy you in a way that your addiction never could?

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Scott Ginsberg

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