Compromising our connection to ourselves

If you set a boundary with someone and they shame you for it, you need to set an even bigger boundary. 

By removing them from your life. 

It’s time to give your love to the one who needs it most, you. 

Even if you feel the sudden pang of the fear of missing out, stick a stake in the ground anyway. You have an obligation to yourself. 

I was recently watching a brilliant stage monologue delivered by a recovering addict who laughed:

If people hate you, you’re probably taking care of yourself. 

What a relief to know that you don’t have to spend the rest of your life being everywhere with everyone always and forever. What a glorious liberation to realize that that the heart has limits and you cannot care about everything. 

Think of it this way. Boundary systems are invisible and symbolic fences. And so, if somebody fails to read your warning sign that clearly states electric, and then gets shocked so hard that they pee their pants, that’s on them. 

Because you are not responsible for the other person’s reaction to the boundary you’re setting. 

You are only response for not compromising your connection to yourself. 


Does the terror of hurting somebody and looking selfish keep you from setting boundaries?

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Scott Ginsberg

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