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The lost art of engaging without subscribing
Just because we believe religion is an inherently implausible theological insurance scam the masses have been brainwashed into believing, and that organized faiths are corporate rackets conducted by parasites who fleece the gullible, doesn’t mean there isn’t inherent value in the core idea. Because the reality is, if we can’t have religion, there are still profound absences in life that we have to fill somewhere else. Universal human needs like…
When you swallow your feelings, your body begins to digest itself
Buddha once said that holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, and then you’re the one who gets burned. That’s a hot tip. And the key phrase, of course, is holding on. Because anger is one of those emotions that’s best invested, not ingested. The challenge, then, is learning to unclench our fists. Allowing anger to serve as…
Accepting the resistance as a natural process
Yeager once said there was a demon that lived in the air. And that whoever challenged him would die. Their controls would freeze up, their planes would buffet wildly and they would disintegrate. The demon lived where the air could no longer move out of the way, behind a barrier through which they said no man could ever pass. It was called the sound barrier. No wonder that movie…
Stay with the first flash
I’ve written three dozen books books, and there isn’t a single one of them that doesn’t have at least one typo. Not because I have incompetent editors or negligent designers. Not because I’m playing a game to see if my readers can find them. Not because I’m leaving an imperfect stitch in the rug as a crack where the light comes in. But because editing is redundant, expensive, labor…
Take action on a foundation activity
Doubt is an unavoidable feature of the human landscape. It’s a sign that our faith has a pulse. And so, the secret in executing anything is having that default move chambered and ready to go. That way, when the doubt comes crashing in, we don’t have to think or ponder or choose. We simply engage our core. We take action on a foundational activity that calibrates the experience and…
A barrage of heaven unleashed on earth
What I love about playing music is, virtuosity isn’t necessarily relevant for getting what you want across. Because a song is something that’s felt long before it’s heard and seen and touched and understood and evaluated. And so, whether your music is bad or average or good or great or even amazing, isn’t the point. Because emotion trumps talent. Feeling arrives at the scene first, before the audience has…
This is it, this is life, this is as good as it gets
When we’re in school, we don’t take boring classes like organic chemistry and applied trigonometry and advanced isotope geology because that knowledge will serve us later in life. We take them to master the habit of doing things we don’t want to do. That’s the real education. Because once we graduate, eighty percent of life is just that. Waiting in line and sucking it up and powering through and…
Overlooking the heights of your greatness
I have a friend who, god bless him, always goes out of his way to show me a bigger picture of myself than I am willing to see. He opens to the complete possibility of what might be. And although I’m not always in the right headspace to confront and embrace that picture, his effort never goes unappreciated. Because as I learned from bestselling architecture book of all time: It’s better…
It’s much safer to see ourselves clearly
In my lowest and most loathsome moments, I forget to treat myself as I’d like to be treated. I start using cruel language to cut myself down. And I say things that, if I said them to another person, they’d probably punch me in the face. But then I remember, having compassion for myself is how I bounce back from failure and struggle and hopelessness. It’s one of the…
Where there’s one, there’s a ton
When times are tough and sales are low, you take your confidence and momentum wherever you can get it. Otherwise you’ll never free yourself from the tyranny of pessimism and get back into the game. And so, instead of forecasting and foreshadowing every possible negative scenario you think might occur, start looking for signs that the universe is on your side. Treat it like a game. Use optimism to…